Ways to Keep It Fun After Years of Togetherness
Jul 11th, 2014
After being with someone for a long time, it’s common to settle into a routine; you’re both comfortable and the “newness” has faded. I can easily say that for my SO and I, it’s really easy for us to slip into a rut and forget that we’re still allowed to have fun together. To keep your relationship fun and fresh, even after years, here are some things you can do to keep that spark alive:
1. Try something new together
This sounds silly, but experiencing something new together allows you to have something new to talk about! It’s also a unique experience that you and your SO can share together – like your own little inside-joke.
2. Make an effort to do things together
My mother taught me a great idea – when she and my dad had been married for awhile, they would pick a book to read together. My dad would read to my mother while she cooked dinner, and after dinner, my mother would read to my dad while he did the dishes. This opened up discussion topics for them and allowed them to do something different together without having to take a lot of time out of their regular routine to do it. Even if it’s as simple as gardening together, picking a favorite show or reading a book together, having something that you do together can strengthen your bond and keep it fun.
3. Don’t forget to laugh!
The one thing I’ve always admired about my parents marriage is that they still make each other laugh. And that is something that my SO and I try to do together – he and I make it a point to find humor in every day situations. Nothing alleviates stress like a good laugh!
4. Never, ever, stop trying.
You may know every secret, every pet peeve, every nuance of your SO. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stop trying. Do little things that you know will brighten each other’s day. Don’t forget to let them know how important they are to you. And, most importantly, don’t stop dating! This one is the most important — make time to take each other out for something special. Whether it’s once a month, once a week or as often as possible, make it a point to still treat the one you’re spending your life with like your special someone.